Fat people are lazy, disgusting and don’t deserve a place in society

 Hey hey everyone!


I like to watch documentaries about various subjects and today I watched one about morbidly obese people in Great Britain. Even though it was very informative, talking about a lot of issues people don’t normally think about because we just take them for granted, the part that really touched me was when one of the women interviewed said what is quoted on the title of this post.
Honestly, I was so shocked at some of the things she said people say to her!!! This poor woman is morbidly obese, needs a walker to help her walk and has to rely on her husbands help to get over common daily tasks such as dressing herself, taking a bath or cooking. And if that wasn’t enough she still has to deal with people coming over to her in the middle of the street telling her she’s a “fat pig” and doesn’t deserve to live. I mean…are you f***ing serious?!


Robyn Lawley
I’m so over this bloody horrible society nowadays! I saw the picture (above) of Robyn Lawley a “plus size” model (it was published on Cosmopolitan) that’s going around the web where most of the comments underneath were of astonishment how that woman was considered plus size!! I mean, if she’s plus size, what the heck am I?!

Young girls get “taught” that if you’re not skinny like a Victoria Secret’s model, then you’re not pretty and that you should starve yourself to be like them. Ok ok, most people don’t tell you to starve yourself directly, but underneath it’s there! I know so many young girls (and boys!) that don’t eat because someone made a nasty comment on the way they looked, it’s heart-breaking! I’ve been a victim of this as well and worse, from members of my own family, people who should be there for me and not criticize the way you look just because you don’t fit into their parameters of what they think you should look.

It’s gotten to the point where people are doing something called “fat shaming” (I didn’t even know about this term until recently!) where people judge other people that are, well for the lack of a better word, fat! They want to deliberately make you feel ashamed for looking the way you do. What they don’t get is that is bloody hurtful!!!! Besides, not everyone who’s “fat” is unhealthy or lazy and sure as hell not disgusting or gross (unless they don’t clean themselves…but then that has nothing to do with them being fat so there ya go!). Granted, some people just don’t care what they eat, but some people are sick, be it physically or emotionally, and yes, you can be addicted to food just like to alcohol or drugs.

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Above is me at the age of 18. I was at my lowest weight. I looked good, not too thin, but not fat either. I was a size 40. What people can’t see from this picture is that I was at my worst battling an eating disorder that no one knew about and most of the people in my life still don’t know I had and still fight with everyday. I wasn’t happy, I wasn’t healthy, I was crashing down everyday. I hated myself. My aunts used to always make petty comment on family dinners. When no one was listening came the nastier comments, often whispered at me. Mostly from two aunts and two uncles. Ironically, one of them was my favourite aunt. Things such as “That’s why you always need new pants, you can’t keep your mouth shut, can you?” or “how do you expect a boy to like you?” or even “you’re getting a bit big!”. They started from when I was 9 and started going through puberty and my body was changing.
I would often go days without eating anything during the day except dinner, because I had to have it with my parents at home. I tried exercising, but that didn’t work because I got winded and tired and just unmotivated. I tried not eating for days, but then I would binge for an entire day. I looked in the mirror and would tell myself I was ugly and fat and no one liked me. I tried throwing up what I ate, but that never really worked out (and today I’m happy it didn’t because I truly do not want to think what my life would have been if it did!). I started cutting myself because, as stupid as it might seem, the physical pain made the emotional pain a bit more bearable. I still have very faint scars, most of them 
disappeared, thankfully.

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Above is me currently. Am I fat? Perhaps you will say I am. I don’t think so. Although I don’t look like Robyn Lawley, I think I still fit into the “normal” shape of women. I have hips, and boobs and a bum! And yes, sometimes my thighs annoy me, or my belly and I have days where I still feel fat! And yes, I have days where I don’t eat so well and others where I exercise more. Am I ugly? You decide. But I don’t care what you think, because I think I’m pretty! And some days even that I’m downright beautiful!

What most people don’t know is that two years after the first picture I showed was taken I got sick. It started in February/March, I went to the hospital every other week with an Asthma attack. I was living with my boyfriend and the time so my parents didn’t really know, or else they would have gotten that there was something wrong, before I did. A few months later I had very high fever for two weeks and no one could understand or find out why. They went as quickly as they came. In August 2008 I was sent to the hospital with what they called another asthma attack. And even though I told them I’m allergic to cortisone, they still administered it to me. That made me not only bloat and put on weight but also really hard to lose it afterwards. You can see it in my arms, they weren’t as big before. Also, this past year we discovered I’ve had insulin resistance for most of my life, without anyone knowing before. Another thing that makes you not be able to lose weight once you have it.

I got over it. Most of the days I think I did, anyways. Some days I still want to starve myself and other I just want to binge on food. But 90% of the time I eat healthy and don’t give into the little voice in my head that tells me not to eat. I don’t deprive myself, I will eat a piece of chocolate or cake or whatever it is I’m feeling like. But then I will take better care the next few days and I never eat too much of anything at once.

I’m very guarded. And I have to say I was lucky. I never told my parents, my friends never knew. Only when I was already in college, one year ago, did I let some of them know. And I must say I’m lucky to have those friends, they are patient with me and will be there when I have a panic attack because of food. It’s happened and they were there, even though they didn’t know what I was going through and feeling at the moment, they were there for me and didn’t let me fall of the wagon.

I managed to get over this alone. I didn’t tell anyone not because I didn’t think they could help, but because I didn’t trust them not to judge me. I was ashamed, I thought I was horrible, ugly and not worth it. I felt exactly like the woman in the documentary, minus the being morbidly obese. But unfortunately most girls that have any kind of eating disorder don’t manage to get out of it and some of them even die from it. It’s something that stays with you forever, always in the back of your mind. I know that if I’m not careful enough I might relapse into the whole vicious cycle of not eating/binging/not eating.

Honestly…I don’t give a rats ass if someone is fat or thin! I just care about them being healthy!!! Do I think society is at fault here? Yes. And no. Because we’re the ones that let society go on with this. We’re the one’s who buy the magazines that sell the idea that you should be thin to be pretty. We’re the ones that accept that that gorgeous woman up there be considered a “plus size”. I think magazines and TV-shows and the fashion industry should start incorporating more real women. Not size 0 or 00 (yes, that exists!!). I’m not saying to completely turn away from the thin models, some clothes do look better on people without curves, that’s just the way they’re designed, but others need a woman’s curves to look good!

Stop fat shaming. And thin shaming. Stop treating one another and yourselves badly all together!!! The first step to love yourself is accept that you’re unique, doesn’t matter your size or the colour of your hair or eyes. You’re beautiful just the way you are.
We’re all beautiful!

Rosie

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26 Comments

  1. Anonymous
    Thursday May 15th, 2014 / 02:35 PM

    You're disgusting and don't deserve a place in society for writing that! You are just a hore who wants attention because you are fat and people not give it to you so you go write shit of fat people when you are two fat!

    Fucking hore you are morbidili obise and stupid and fat

  2. Anonymous
    Thursday May 15th, 2014 / 02:35 PM

    You're disgusting and don't deserve a place in society for writing that! You are just a hore who wants attention because you are fat and people not give it to you so you go write shit of fat people when you are two fat!

    Fucking hore you are morbidili obise and stupid and fat

  3. Tuesday May 20th, 2014 / 07:04 AM

    Well dear Anonymous, if you had read the article (instead of just the title) you would have realizes what it is all about. I advise you to do so next time (and maybe get some English lessons while you're at it).

    But hey, thanks for the comment! Every feedback is appreciated and if it makes me laugh, even more! Keep it up!

  4. Tuesday May 20th, 2014 / 07:04 AM

    Well dear Anonymous, if you had read the article (instead of just the title) you would have realizes what it is all about. I advise you to do so next time (and maybe get some English lessons while you're at it).

    But hey, thanks for the comment! Every feedback is appreciated and if it makes me laugh, even more! Keep it up!

  5. Saturday May 24th, 2014 / 04:34 AM

    I was feeling bad about my own weight and stumbled upon this blog post. It made me feel better. You are beautiful.

  6. Saturday May 24th, 2014 / 04:34 AM

    I was feeling bad about my own weight and stumbled upon this blog post. It made me feel better. You are beautiful.

  7. Thursday May 29th, 2014 / 04:52 PM

    Aww thank you!!! That's what I thrive for…knowing that I made just one person feel better by what I write, makes my day!!! =D =D You are beautiful too!

  8. Thursday May 29th, 2014 / 04:52 PM

    Aww thank you!!! That's what I thrive for…knowing that I made just one person feel better by what I write, makes my day!!! =D =D You are beautiful too!

  9. Anonymous
    Tuesday June 17th, 2014 / 07:20 AM

    I just wanted to say thank you for writing this. I have never had anyone “fat shame” me, but I constantly feel the stares and hear the whispers. (Whether they are actually happening, or it is just my imagination is the question) But I am always super self conscious and I have been thinking about throwing up after meals a lot lately, but I can't seem to make myself do it. I was searching the internet looking for articles to convince myself that I am not worth anything, so that my thoughts could be put into action. But i came across this instead. I really appreciate what you had to say. =) I am not morbidly obese, but for an 18 year old, I am bigger than almost everyone around me. (Once again, it could just be my perceptions, but I am pretty sure about that one) Even though I am big, I get frustrated when people talk bad about naturally skinny people, so I loved how you threw in thin shaming to this too! We all struggle with our own body image, and we don't need others telling us how we should and shouldn't look. We do enough of that ourselves. So thank you for being supportive to EVERYONE. It is nice to see =)

  10. Anonymous
    Tuesday June 17th, 2014 / 07:20 AM

    I just wanted to say thank you for writing this. I have never had anyone “fat shame” me, but I constantly feel the stares and hear the whispers. (Whether they are actually happening, or it is just my imagination is the question) But I am always super self conscious and I have been thinking about throwing up after meals a lot lately, but I can't seem to make myself do it. I was searching the internet looking for articles to convince myself that I am not worth anything, so that my thoughts could be put into action. But i came across this instead. I really appreciate what you had to say. =) I am not morbidly obese, but for an 18 year old, I am bigger than almost everyone around me. (Once again, it could just be my perceptions, but I am pretty sure about that one) Even though I am big, I get frustrated when people talk bad about naturally skinny people, so I loved how you threw in thin shaming to this too! We all struggle with our own body image, and we don't need others telling us how we should and shouldn't look. We do enough of that ourselves. So thank you for being supportive to EVERYONE. It is nice to see =)

  11. Sunday June 29th, 2014 / 12:29 PM

    Thank you so much!!! I really loved your comment!
    I totally understand you…some days I'm totally fine and others if someone looks at me while I'm walking in the street I immediately think they're talking about me or saying I'm fat or something!

    Please don't!! I know what you're feeling…I've been through the same (somedays I still go through it), but I am “lucky” enough not to be able to make myself throw up (trust me, I've tried…)… You ARE worth it!! If you ever feel otherwise, come talk to me and I'll remind you of that!

    And thank you so much for your kind words!

  12. Sunday June 29th, 2014 / 12:29 PM

    Thank you so much!!! I really loved your comment!
    I totally understand you…some days I'm totally fine and others if someone looks at me while I'm walking in the street I immediately think they're talking about me or saying I'm fat or something!

    Please don't!! I know what you're feeling…I've been through the same (somedays I still go through it), but I am “lucky” enough not to be able to make myself throw up (trust me, I've tried…)… You ARE worth it!! If you ever feel otherwise, come talk to me and I'll remind you of that!

    And thank you so much for your kind words!

  13. Anonymous
    Tuesday July 22nd, 2014 / 03:11 PM

    Hey. Nice article. I agree that fat shaming is bad. so is skinny shaming or whatever kinds of shaming. but in the model world, Robyn Lawley is honestly considered a plus-sized model. It's just the way it is. I feel the same way too. I'm not trying to be mean, but she is not a skinny model. It's just that you have to understand that in other countries, size 40 is considered… a little too big. I'm asian and the people around me are small, so that might the reason why I feel that way.
    anyway i agree with most of your article. sorry to hear about your battle. i myself am going through one right now for the past 6 years.. (: keep up that confidence hun.

  14. Anonymous
    Tuesday July 22nd, 2014 / 03:11 PM

    Hey. Nice article. I agree that fat shaming is bad. so is skinny shaming or whatever kinds of shaming. but in the model world, Robyn Lawley is honestly considered a plus-sized model. It's just the way it is. I feel the same way too. I'm not trying to be mean, but she is not a skinny model. It's just that you have to understand that in other countries, size 40 is considered… a little too big. I'm asian and the people around me are small, so that might the reason why I feel that way.
    anyway i agree with most of your article. sorry to hear about your battle. i myself am going through one right now for the past 6 years.. (: keep up that confidence hun.

  15. Sunday August 10th, 2014 / 09:48 AM

    I know that Robyn Lawley is not a skinny model, I just think that the fashion industry is getting into a very dangerous path and quite honestly, also somewhat unrealistic…most people do not look like the models at fashion week…they want us to love fashion, to relate to them, but how can we do it, if the models do not look like the average woman?
    I do understand that in some countries size 40 is considered bigger…in asian countries, such as yours for example, it's a standard thing to consider 40 big, because you guys are naturally tinier than other countries, and that is perfectly ok! But truth is, the most “known” models and fashion weeks are in countries where someone like Robyn is average looking…and I don't think it's ok to make the women in those countries think they're not good enough because they're not skinny..

  16. Sunday August 10th, 2014 / 09:48 AM

    I know that Robyn Lawley is not a skinny model, I just think that the fashion industry is getting into a very dangerous path and quite honestly, also somewhat unrealistic…most people do not look like the models at fashion week…they want us to love fashion, to relate to them, but how can we do it, if the models do not look like the average woman?
    I do understand that in some countries size 40 is considered bigger…in asian countries, such as yours for example, it's a standard thing to consider 40 big, because you guys are naturally tinier than other countries, and that is perfectly ok! But truth is, the most “known” models and fashion weeks are in countries where someone like Robyn is average looking…and I don't think it's ok to make the women in those countries think they're not good enough because they're not skinny..

  17. Anonymous
    Sunday August 17th, 2014 / 02:42 AM

    Why do fat people frequently complain that others want them to “starve themselves”? A healthy diet is not a starvation diet. Vegetables, fruit, whole grains, legumes, lean meat, water, with junk food, soda and fast food in moderation – that is hardly starving! Throw in some exercise 3 times a week, and you too can look like that 'plus sized' model if you wish. Our genetics and conditions haven't increased at the rate of obesity. Why are fat people so happy to be fat and die young?

  18. Anonymous
    Sunday August 17th, 2014 / 02:42 AM

    Why do fat people frequently complain that others want them to “starve themselves”? A healthy diet is not a starvation diet. Vegetables, fruit, whole grains, legumes, lean meat, water, with junk food, soda and fast food in moderation – that is hardly starving! Throw in some exercise 3 times a week, and you too can look like that 'plus sized' model if you wish. Our genetics and conditions haven't increased at the rate of obesity. Why are fat people so happy to be fat and die young?

  19. Tuesday September 9th, 2014 / 09:09 PM

    If you had read correctly you would realize that what I wrote is that society in general makes girls (regardless of their weight/shape/size) think that they need to starve and look like models. Just look at the TV-shows out there…how many times do the girls/women eat something other that salads? Salads can be healthy but it's hardly realistic that it's the only thing anyone ever eats when going out!
    I eat healthy, I work out and I still don't look like “that plus sized model” and that's ok…genetics only take you that far…

    I agree with you, to some extend, that genetics have not increased at the rate of obesity, but they HAVE changed and are now slowing metabolisms, which is of course mostly based not only on the types of foods people are eating now but also on the lack of exercise…it's being passed from generation to generation and is only going to get worse.

    You clearly don't have a very big perspective of things, or else you'd know that “fat people” are very far from being happy and dying young! You speak as if you think that being fat is a choice and even if, to some extent, it is influenced by our choices, in many cases it's due to health issues.

    I think you should try not to be so closed minded…the comment you left just shows how closed up you are and how little of a notion you have on the lives of fat people.

  20. Tuesday September 9th, 2014 / 09:09 PM

    If you had read correctly you would realize that what I wrote is that society in general makes girls (regardless of their weight/shape/size) think that they need to starve and look like models. Just look at the TV-shows out there…how many times do the girls/women eat something other that salads? Salads can be healthy but it's hardly realistic that it's the only thing anyone ever eats when going out!
    I eat healthy, I work out and I still don't look like “that plus sized model” and that's ok…genetics only take you that far…

    I agree with you, to some extend, that genetics have not increased at the rate of obesity, but they HAVE changed and are now slowing metabolisms, which is of course mostly based not only on the types of foods people are eating now but also on the lack of exercise…it's being passed from generation to generation and is only going to get worse.

    You clearly don't have a very big perspective of things, or else you'd know that “fat people” are very far from being happy and dying young! You speak as if you think that being fat is a choice and even if, to some extent, it is influenced by our choices, in many cases it's due to health issues.

    I think you should try not to be so closed minded…the comment you left just shows how closed up you are and how little of a notion you have on the lives of fat people.

  21. Anonymous
    Wednesday September 10th, 2014 / 05:53 PM

    I just want to say a huge thank you for writing this article! I'm 15 years old and I have struggled with my weight for god knows how long. I have contemplated bulimia and even tried making myself throw up after meals a couple of times but luckily haven't taken it up. I do get teased at school, feel like I have no friends and become very self conscious about things like sitting down and walking and I hate cameras being pointed at me. Some days are worse than others and I'm just about coping. When I read your article it really gave me hope. Hope that there are still people out there who think as positively and open-mindedly as you do. I think you are a truly beautiful woman and would love to look like you. Thank you again for giving me hope 🙂

  22. Anonymous
    Wednesday September 10th, 2014 / 05:53 PM

    I just want to say a huge thank you for writing this article! I'm 15 years old and I have struggled with my weight for god knows how long. I have contemplated bulimia and even tried making myself throw up after meals a couple of times but luckily haven't taken it up. I do get teased at school, feel like I have no friends and become very self conscious about things like sitting down and walking and I hate cameras being pointed at me. Some days are worse than others and I'm just about coping. When I read your article it really gave me hope. Hope that there are still people out there who think as positively and open-mindedly as you do. I think you are a truly beautiful woman and would love to look like you. Thank you again for giving me hope 🙂

  23. Sunday September 14th, 2014 / 03:33 PM

    It breaks my heart to read what you're going through…I know how bad it is, because I went through the same things before I learned to accept and love myself the way I am…and I know it's hard and some days you just want to give everything up, but please know that it will get better! You will learn to love yourself and you're gonna get out of this stronger than you think!

    Thank you, that is so sweet of you…I know you're beautiful too, you just need to believe it!!

    If you need a friend or have a bad day, please know you can e-mail me anytime, ok?

  24. Sunday September 14th, 2014 / 03:33 PM

    It breaks my heart to read what you're going through…I know how bad it is, because I went through the same things before I learned to accept and love myself the way I am…and I know it's hard and some days you just want to give everything up, but please know that it will get better! You will learn to love yourself and you're gonna get out of this stronger than you think!

    Thank you, that is so sweet of you…I know you're beautiful too, you just need to believe it!!

    If you need a friend or have a bad day, please know you can e-mail me anytime, ok?

  25. Friday April 3rd, 2015 / 03:54 AM

    You go, girl! Not everybody is born to be waif-thin. All one needs is to be the right weight for your frame and to be disciplined about food and exercise.

    The ‘plus-sized’ model is gorgeous! She doesn’t belong in the plus-sized category at all! And just so you know, I’m a woman and a US size 2. I don’t find her size even near fat.

    What matters is your health. As long as you’re healthy, really, it’s all that matters : )

  26. Friday April 3rd, 2015 / 03:56 AM

    All one needs is to be healthy and that includes being a healthy weight for your frame. Not everyone is born to be a waif. Glad that you’re taking steps towards a healthy life : ) Wishing you all the best : )

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